Happiness has become the most sought-after spiritual gem by so many people. From children to adults, from people who have much to people who are less fortunate, almost all of them are looking for happiness. Sadly, not a few people who pursue happiness too hard were then meet the unhappiness. Especially because the energy of pushing too hard is often followed by a hard push back. It is similar to a pendulum. If it is pulled too hard to the left, it will return to the right very hard as well. And that’s what happens with friends who want to find happiness by consuming drugs, sleeping pills, or any form of celebration that is too excessive.
Inspired from here, it is worth pondering to always guide yourself to grow in the old house of the soul called balance. Body, mind, feeling and spirit are all easier to find happiness and peace in the old house of balance. Pay attention to the body, when the outside air is too hot it misses the cool air. When the outside weather is too cold, the body needs warmth. That is why a long-time friend who grew up on the coast called the mountain is a paradise. Friends who are bored with the cold breeze on the mountain will say that the beach is a beautiful heaven. This actually reflect, the body is looking neither hot nor cold, neither mountains nor beaches, but the old house of balance.
The mind is not much different. Extreme confidence of always feel being right not only can it burn people outside, but it can also be very burning inside. Excessive self-judgment in the form of guilt not only harms outsiders, but also endangers the soul inside. That is why meditation as a way of healing is often referred to as the middle way. When feeling yourself too right, share a smile on this type of belief, then take your mind gently to the middle. When you get too much guilt, share a smile on the excessive guilt. And remember to always return gently to the center.
A feeling is more subtle than the mind. Sad – glad, grief – joy, illness – healthy are part of the pendulum of feelings that are always moving. No matter how deep is someone’s meditation, the pendulum of feeling will always move. Simple meditation, aware of its moving nature, keeps the feeling from being too extreme. Then soft and smoothly try to always bring it to the midpoint. A welcoming smile is a very close friend in this matter. A very helpful framework is the Yin-Yang circle from China. No matter how high someone’s achievement, there will always be black and white, sad and glad. But always remember that in the black region there is a white dot. In the white area there is a black dot. That is the face of a deeper balance.
The Spirit is the most complicated part of this. Earth is a planet that is very rich in spirits. From the dark spirit until the light is here on earth. And the spirit of what someone finds on earth is determined by their inner body, mind and feeling. Sadly, many people inner self are very dark, guided by these dark spirits, then very convincingly proclaim the truth by doing the act of violence. Not a few of them even committed mass murder. And throughout this era there are always humans of this type. The logic is simple, the worm will find a beautiful house in the mud. Flies find beautiful homes in trash cans. For most humans, mud and trash cans are indeed dirty. But for worms and flies, it’s a luxurious and beautiful house.
In connection with this, a very deep study of mental healing and happiness that Harvard University has done has been worth reflecting. As published on the TED youtube site, and presented by Rober Waldinger, this research was conducted for 75 years. He involved respondents totaling 724 people. Including 2,000 of the children and grandchildren of the respondents were monitored. Not only were they interviewed year after year during the whole 75 years, but their conversations with close relatives were also recorded. Most amazingly, even the health records of the respondents were monitored for decades. Certainly complete with their up and down graphs.
The conclusion of this very in-depth research, perhaps even the deepest research in the field of mental healing and happiness, is very touching. The most important factor that makes humans healthy and acquired a long life is not their sugar or cholesterol level, but rather the quality of one’s relationship with their close family and friends. Again, it is the quality of relationships with our closest people. Back to the story of spirit, the quality of positive and healthy relationships with our close people for decades, makes humans have a beautiful spirit inside. This beautiful and healthy spirit then invites outside spirit of guidance who are also healthy and beautiful. It is as simple as a beautiful garden that invites beautiful butterflies.
For reasons like this, that is why the Compassion spiritual family are very diligent in caring for friends to have a harmonious and healthy family life. Not only those who want to divorce, even to those friends who have been officially divorce, we always try to get along well. Especially so that friends grow up in a healthy and beautiful spirit environment. As the experience of the Compassion family serves the community. At the beginning there were negative suspects, some were angry, some were attacked. But after always being answered with a beautiful attitude for decades, the negative suspicion, anger and other people’s attacks were dropped dramatically. The same thing happens with humans who grew up in beautiful families.
Be less judgemental to an ideal measures that husbands should be like this, wives should be like that, children should be like this and that. Instead, focus the energy to grow more beautifully inside. Concretely, keep your mind away from all forms of excessive belief that yourself is always right, look other people with the eyes that full of acceptance, garnish our lips with a smile, and provide ears that listen sincerely. As long as we keep diligent and sincere, naturally the surrounding environment will reflect the same beautiful spirit. The combination of the beautiful spirit inside, which meets a beautiful spirit in the surrounding environment, that opens the door to a far deeper happiness.
As a result, not only is the body healthy and the soul is saved, but also we can be the bringers of the dawn. Not only our actions and words, even our eyes will easily soothe the environment. Growing around these types of people makes happiness and peace bloom very easily. Borrowing Mother Teresa’s old legacy, what is needed from you is not big actions, but small actions with great love. In the old language of the science of balance, learning is the balanced between caring for oneself and caring for others. More specifically, the most beautiful way to treat yourself is by caring for others. This is the concrete and practical form of profound happiness.
Author: Guruji Gede Prama.
Photo courtesy: Pinterest.
Translated By: Family Compassion.