“At the beginning it was joy, at the end it will be joy, in the middle there’s only joy”, that’s the whisper of an old message. Sadly, very few of human beings bloom in joy. Here and there we can see human faces which have a lack of smile. Some were even taken to hospitals and psychiatric hospitals.
After listening to thousands of unhealthy friends in the meditation sessions, there was a secret revealed that the inner conversations of those painful friends were far from healthy. The borrowed outer faces are changing, but the inner core is the same: “I am a victim, and the others are badly wrong”. That’s the inner dialogues from day to day.
The last identity as a victim is then to make a person like waste that invites the coming of flies. More and more people appear to be hurting. Even a sincere smile of a good neighbor can be concluded as insulting. Graffiti writing on the back of the trucks can make the quality of sleep worsen.
Once it was traced deeper, the crucial root that makes humans carry pain everywhere is the failure to forgive. Especially forgiving trauma that happened in childhood. From angry parents, to friends in childhood that produce anxiety.
That is why, very close friends whose eyes are sensitive and deeply wounded, often give advice: “Have the courage to express emotions intelligently, do not repress all inner negative emotions”. Let’s say you cannot stand with a very difficult brother. Politely walk away in a friendly way. Without this kind of courage, the soul can be very dangerous.
Together with the heroic step of going away, remember to equip yourself with the sincerity to forgive. Forgiveness certainly does not change the past. But forgiveness instantly makes a person free from the heavy burden of anger and resentment. At the same time, it is the best preparation towards the future.
If you want a healthy body and happy soul, quickly learn to awaken the sparkle inside. To put it more precisely, learn to remember as often as possible the wonderful events of the past. Where you were treated so well by life. From a very loving mama, until the school days which were full of happy experiences.
In times of boredom, learn to sing beautiful songs that remind you of fond memories of the past. The songs of kindergarten children is an example. Songs from teenager times are another example. The spiritual friends who deeply learn the healing power of sound, they know that singing is healing.
Colors are also materials in nature that help us to be healed. For friends in the city whose daily scenery is only a concrete building, a cool green color softly heals. Those friends who spent almost all their life inside the office, seeing a clear blue sky is very healing.
Every time you want to close your eyes at night, always have time to make a list of things that you deserve to be grateful for. From a healthy body, to surviving families. At the very least, just talk about things that you deserve to be grateful for in life before bed. Always keep in the heart, only survivors can save others.
Author: Guruji Gede Prama.
Proofread By: Kirsty Spence.