There is nothing wrong with the old behavior of liking to please other people. What needs to be watched out for, this type of human being usually forgets to please him/herself too.
This will not only makes the person concerned easily lacking energy, but can also become a stranger in one’s own body. And that is dangerous.
Another danger, people can wrongly “read” you. They will think you can do everything for them. And this also opens the door of danger. Especially for women.
Before being picked up by dangers such as mental illness and chronic pain, learn to balance between pleasing others and pleasing yourself.
When people seem to disappoint you, for example, it’s okay to walk away politely. Or even when people seems to be dangerous.
Building a fence between yourself and other people is healthy. Mainly because there are many ways to grow in this realm.
Fish lives in the water, birds lives on trees. Frangipani grows on dry land, lotus grows in wet mud. In other words, it’s okay if you are different from other people.
It is totally fine! For those whose minds are narrow, maybe you will be called arrogant by others. But it is still a lot less riskier than getting a heart deases.
In short, not only does a house need a fence to be safe. Mental growth and bodily health also require a fence to be safe and comfortable.
For this reason, as early as possible learn to say “no” to people whose energy and life calling are very different. Westerners call this path as live and let live.
You grow in your own unique way. Allow others to grow in their own unique way. This is a healthy and safe path of life.
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