A person’s long relationship with certain environment can be a barrier of growth, or it can be a facilitator of growth. In-depth research on the victims of cancer in the West tells the story, cancer victims generally grow in an environment which is psychologically and spiritually far from healthy.
Learning from here, as early as possible train yourself to be smart in managing the relationship and feelings are the most important compass in this case. If a neighbor brings you anxiety, anger over the years, you should stay away from them politely.
When there is a close family or close friend who can easily make you happy, this kind of relationship should be treated diligently and sincerely. It is not impossible that they will become true friends someday.
As a material of reflection, human relationships are organic. It is constantly growing. Similar to junk and beautiful flowers, people who smile in one morning can be angry in the other day. Angry people at times can smile beautifully at other times. The most important homework then is to take care of this organic seed.
One very important factor in this regard is maintaining a balance between expectation and reality. Expectations that are much higher than reality can easily make the relationship slip into disappointment. That is why, it is important to make hope close to reality.
Similar to gardeners who dare to have dirty hands to produce beautiful flowers, sometimes it takes sacrifice to make the relationship grow beautifully. Without sincere sacrifice, any relationship will end up in dissatisfaction.
As inherited by psychologist Carl Jung, the relationship is half of healing. That is, once the relationship is close enough, then the growth toward healing will be much easier and faster.
In the deep meditation language, each time associated with people, emit two lights of consciousness (double consciousness). First, be aware of any ups and downs of thoughts and feelings inside. Second, realize deeply that the others are also have ups and down.
Anyone who is diligent, sincere, do not easily give up radiating two lights of consciousness of this kind, one day without trying too hard will find, it turns out that close people to have grown into true friends. With true friends, life becomes easier, more beautiful, and full of blessings
Author: Guruji Gede Prama.