Healing Anger

The energy within which is very frightening in our age is anger. Almost all human catastrophe like war, terrorism till suicide have strong roots in anger. Without a serious attempt to heal anger, the future will be full of clouds.

The topic of anger has been analyzed by many writers using different perspective. And it is difficult to deny, the deepest root of anger is the feeling of being incomplete. The last feeling which makes the teenagers look for boy friend or girl friend, it makes the adults search for treasure and positions. Even in the spiritual world people are hungry of enlightenment.

One day there was a mother in Vietnam who recite the name of Buddha Amitabha. In the middle of her deep prayer, suddenly her neighbor calling her name. Being disturbed by the noise, this mother was angry. Suddenly the neighbor got laugh and said: “oh my God, I only call your name three times, you got angry. I can not imagine, how angry Buddha Amitabha is, because you call his name thousand times”.

The message of this story is simple, even in the spiritual world people are full of anger. And back to the deepest root of anger, as long as there is a feeling of being incomplete, anger will remain disturb human beings. And the last feeling of being incomplete also makes many people create enemies within.

The huge values of cosmetics industry, the rapid growth of plastic surgery are some signs that many commoners have a lot of enemies within. Those who have dark skin want to be whiter, those who have straight hair want to be curly, and some others want to change the form of their nose.

Sadly, the enemies inside is inviting the coming of enemies outside. It is similar to the rubbish that invites the coming of flies. The interaction between the enemy inside and the enemy outside make many people are burnt by frightening anger.

For that reason, in order to be healed completely from anger, there is no other way except learning to heal the feeling of being incomplete inside. On the path of meditation, it is healed by touching the present moment deeply. That’s why one of important definition of meditation is to be in touch with this moment as it is.

The meaning of touching the present deeply is simple, one is suggested to be fully presence in the present. It is free from the attachment to positive things, it is free from the hatred to negative things. Whatever the blessing of this moment, simply hug this moment with the same quality of smile.

In meditation classes are often heard a message like this: “the past is past, the future is not yet to come, the only present is the present”. It will be easier to be in touch with the present if one believe that all are the smile of the same perfection. Everything has their own guidance.

By focusing on the guidance not the punishments, by then one can deeply touch the present. It will be much deeper when spiritual seekers learn to beautifully hug the wound within, like a mother softly hugs her only son. In this way, slow but sure meditators can heal themselves from the feeling of being incomplete as the deepest root of anger.

Author: Gede Prama
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About the author

H.H. Guruji Gede Prama

Gede Prama started his spiritual journey through a dialogue with his symbolic Guru in a village at the north of Bali. The journey is then being enriched with his experiences of studying abroad, his meetings with the world greatest spiritual Gurus: His Holiness Dalai Lama, The Venerable Thich Nhat Hanh, as well as Professor Karen Armstrong; and also being deepened by his intense meditation practices.

Despite the fact that he was once a CEO of a large corporation with thousand of employees, and was traveling abroad frequently for the purpose of teaching, yet, being deeply moved by the Bali bombing incident in 2002, he then decided to leave everything and went back to his home island.
He has never leave Bali for the past few years. In fact, he rarely leaves the silence of the forest where he lives, except for the purpose of teaching at the sacred sites within Bali.

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