Healing The Burning Anger

Written by Gede Prama

One of the important homework of human beings which has not been completed since a long time ago is how to heal the burning anger. As we all know, religious norms have been created for thousands of years to prohibit anger, the institution of prison has been established to avoid anger for thousands of years as well, the old discipline of psychology also wants to heal anger, but there are no signs that anger is declining. In some parts, people’s anger is even worse.

Eventhough it appears to be difficult and complicated to heal the burning anger, but it is worth trying again and again. In the perspective of eastern philosophy, when anger is compared with a government, the president is called avidya (ignorance), the coordinating ministers are called complexity and hatred. Together they make the world darker and darker day by  day.

What is meant by ignorance in this case, it is not ignorance because of not having a diploma. It is not ignorance because one never reads. But ignorance that comes from the mind which is unclean and unclear. In this day and age, one of the great powers that lie behind the unclean and unclear mind is the endless desire.

One who walks wants to have a motorcycle. After having motorcycle, they want to have a car. After driving a Toyota, they want to have BMW. That’s how the endless desire turns life into ​the unlimited sea of grief. The immediate consequence of all of this, life grows from one complexity into another complexity. The condition is worsened by the old habit of comparing upward. It is this dangerous combination of complexity and hatred that continually burns the flames of anger inside.

But do not be afraid, in nature there are always counter-balances. The balancing power of fire is water. The balancing power of waste is flowers. The balancing power of a bad guy is a good guy. The same thing happens to anger. As long as one is diligent and sincere, meditation in particular can help people to recover from anger.

One of the simple but profound symbols in this regard is organic gardeners. Everything inside and outside are organic materials that can be processed. The materials outside are looking at the person who causes anger as a suffering soul. Behind their suffering there are complicated networks like troubled families and problematic schools. Once this complicated network is opened, there is the possibility that the flower of compassion blossoms.

The ingredients that are available within is different. Firstly, whenever anger visits your life, learn to be beautifully connect to the anchor that is connecting the ship of mind with the beach of peace. The anchor is named breath. Secondly, accept anger as part of yourself. Thirdly, embrace anger like a mother embracing her only son.

As ever written by many sacred books, there are many secrets hidden behind the breath. In the context of anger, the breath brings fresh air into the inner room of the person who is on fire. It makes the room of the mind fresh. Especially if the breath is combined with the realization that anger is not our enemy, but anger is part of us.

In psychology there is an old phrase that said: “What you resist persists”. What you fight will fight you back with greater power. When a person has a headache, there is no doctor who advises to dispose of the head. All doctors advise to take good care of the head. The same thing happens to anger. Forget the idea of ​​getting rid of anger totally. Treat anger as a mother who takes good care of her only son.

Anyone who is diligent and sincere in practicing meditation like this for decades, there is the possibility that complexity can be replaced by simplicity, there is possibility that hatred is replaced by kindness. And the most important thing,  ignorance (avidya) is illuminated by the light of knowledge (vidya). Unlike the teachers in the school who illuminate the students with the borrowed words from outside, this way of healing anger will enable one to illuminate the darkness within by using the light inside. The Balinese elders called it meshiva raga. Directly learning from the Light of God within.

Author: Guruji Gede Prama.
Photo Courtesy: 123 rf.
Proofread by: Kirsty Spence.

About the author

Gede Prama

Gede Prama started his spiritual journey through a dialogue with his symbolic Guru in a village at the north of Bali. The journey is then being enriched with his experiences of studying abroad, his meetings with the world greatest spiritual Gurus: His Holiness Dalai Lama, The Venerable Thich Nhat Hanh, as well as Professor Karen Armstrong; and also being deepened by his intense meditation practices.

Despite the fact that he was once a CEO of a large corporation with thousand of employees, and was traveling abroad frequently for the purpose of teaching, yet, being deeply moved by the Bali bombing incident in 2002, he then decided to leave everything and went back to his home island.
He has never leave Bali for the past few years. In fact, he rarely leaves the silence of the forest where he lives, except for the purpose of teaching at the sacred sites within Bali.

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