One day there was a mother who keep weeping everyday. When she was asked, she really loves his two sons. In the heavy rain, the mother crying for her son who sells ice cream. When the day is bright and hot this mother crying for her son who selling raincoats.
Desire As Servant
For every people who are drowned in desire, life is like rainfall of tears. There is no day without sadness. Without serious improvement, life could fall into dangerous abyss of disease. As have been published in a number of research, many dangerous cancers were preceded by insomnia for years. All physical illness has mental element. And among all the mental elements that cause many diseases, self denial is the most crucial.
To be frank, desire is not always bad. As far as one can manage it well, simply put desire as servant, then desire is friend of growth. Danger occurs when desire becomes the master that determines everything. When it is followed continuously, desire makes someone similar to cat chasing its own tail. The harder it is pursued, the more distant the tail. This is the reason behind many dangerous illness.
Learning from this experience, anyone who want to be peaceful, there is no other option except to put desire back as a servant. When you are hungry, simply eat. If you are thirsty just drink. Just in the case you are sleepy go to sleep. That is the forms of desire as a servant.
Analyzing Vs. Witnessing
The classical psychology of Sigmund Freud emphasize much on analysis. That’s why Freud blame parents and childhood many times. The main characteristic of analysis, people search the root of the root. Bad mood, anger and the like – borrowing from Freud – rooted in the repressed feelings during childhood. As a result, the repressed feelings were thrown into the unconsciousness. The dangerous thing like crazy happens, if the warehouse of unconsciousness is full then exploding.
This way of thinking is logical. It does make sense. However, when we go deep, finding the root is like finding the root of water. Water comes from the clouds, the clouds comes from ocean, the ocean is place where water will return. We are hurt by parent, parent were hurt by their parents. If you believe in reincarnation, the one who hurt grand parents may be we ourselves. It is circling without ending.
Inspired by the increasing rate of suicide, divorce, depression, stress everywhere then it is worth pondering the approach of eastern psychology. While western psychology focus on analyzing, the eastern focus on witnessing. The approach is simple, you are asked to be a witness. Success is high wave, failure is low wave. And both bow on the beach of peace. And the beach is not the end journey of the wave, the wave will return back to the same beach. In the context of healing, our duty is simply to be a witness.
Moon of Compassion
Anyone who spends long time enough to be a witness through deep meditation, will understand that all positive things that are attached and negative things that are rejected are just clouds that come and go. Happiness is white clouds. Sadness is dark clouds. The essence of suffering is attachment to the white clouds and rejecting the dark clouds. In fact, both the white and the dark simply come and go according to their law. That’s why, under the clouds sometimes light appear other times light disappear. But above the clouds, the light remains forever.
And witnessing makes a person ceased to be a cloud. Then learn to be clean and clear as the blue sky. One who rest in the cloudless blue sky for the long time, one day full moon of compassion rises from within. This is ultimate healing. Sometimes it is called enlightenment. Infinite silence and wisdom enable one to smile at each event of life. The past is full of lessons, the future is full of inspiration, the present is the only present. From the peak of smile then moon of compassion rise. A kind of compassion that was born only to bring souls be back home.
Look at one beautiful poetry of Rumi: “Life is like staying at guest house. The guests keep changing everyday. Whoever the guests, keep smiling”. This is beautiful life. Witnessing makes someone say goodbye to the clouds of suffering. Then the gate of silence is opened. Having entered this gate, one realize that soul is an infinite ocean of flowers. In the last ocean, one will understand that soul is here not to conquer this planet, but to bless this planet with love, kindness and compassion. A beautiful soul heard a message here: “this planet is not factory of weapon, it is a garden of compassion”.