The Beautiful Path of Sincerity

Written by Gede Prama

There are times in life, especially in a long cycle of crisis, where logic, taste, knowledge, experience, brain and even heart does not help.  Everything feels and looks dark so far from light.  When the disease outbreak spread, a number of health centers and hospitals were closed.  When billions of people lose their jobs, the economy goes down.  At the same time, paradoxes and contradictions are appearing everywhere.  It reminds man of the old saying, when on the outside is lack of Light, learns to find Light within.  And one of the beautiful Light that is available within, and proven to save mankind throughout history, it is called sincerity.  Light bearers in our time from Kahlil Gibran, Jalaludin Rumi, Nelson Mandela, Mother Teresa, Mahatma Gandhi to HH Dalai Lama, have all been saved by the beautiful Light called sincerity.

Clear obstructions

In order to make the path to sincerity easier to open, it is better if the barriers to get there are cleared first.  One of the important barriers to this is pain, sickness and death.  It is a large wall that is difficult to penetrate by sincerity.  To that end, let’s open a window to a healthier understanding of pain, sickness and death.  For friends to ponder more deeply, sickness and pain do not open the door to death.  Again it is not!  But the door to change opens.  Once illness is used as a “holy bell” for change, illness can become an angel in disguise that can make life even more beautiful.  Many have proven it.  The practical step, identify what is prohibited by disease.  For example, if you have diabetes, quickly change your habits and consume less sugar.  If you get frequent headaches, think less and try to have a more flowing mind.  Once the prohibitions are not broken, remember to read the spiritual message behind the illness.

People who have heart disease are encouraged to perfect their quality of love.  He who often has pain in the mouth and throat area, is suggested to be wise in using words.  Friends who are often have sore in their feet, learn to step carefully in life.  If the pain is around the back, learn to be more upright and confident in living your life.  Always remember, the good and right food is the highest medicine in nature.  Besides that, the journey to heal oneself is a friendly journey with your trueself.  Not a journey full of self-animosity.  Anyone who is diligent and sincere in front of illness, especially by combining discipline not to prohibit disease, and discipline to implement the spiritual message behind illness, will one day understand through the personal achievement: “Pain is not a threat.  It is an opportunity ”.  Pain and sickness were not a threat to life, but an opportunity to step back towards the house of Light.  In the West, many have come to a conclusion like this: “As you heal yourself, you will meet the brighter parts of yourself”.  Once you heal yourself, you will find a much brighter face of life.  Above all, learn to use pain and illness as the main key to opening the beautiful door of sincerity.

The path to sincerity

Just as nature cannot throw away the night, the ocean cannot throw away the waves, roses cannot throw away thorns, nor can humans can get rid of bad moods, sorrow, pain, sickness and death.  Death in particular, it is not the enemy of life, but the partner of life.  In our time, Harvard University professor of psychology named Susan David in her masterpiece “Agile Emotion” is very clear on this point.  Most people take unhealthy steps when visited by inner darkness such as sadness and misfortune.  First of all  we tend to judge the outside as well as judge our innerself.  Then run away from sadness and pain.  Some run to entertainment, others run to sedatives.  In the end, the darkness outside gave birth to a greater darkness inside.  The beauty of sincerity, it can make the darkness outside give birth to the beautiful Light inside.

For that reason, every time you are visited by sadness or pain, learn not to run away from it.  Train yourself to be diligent and sincere to “embrace” the discomfort inside.  For friends to ponder, no life is always comfortable.  Even holy souls like Mahatma Gandhi and Buddha experienced a lot of discomfort.  The practical step then, learn to grow with the discomfort.  See and treat the discomfort as it is.  As simple as nature treats the night, as simple as the ocean growing with the waves, as calm as a rose growing with the thorns.  At first there were those who refused inside.  From stubborn rejection such as feeling stupid and being fooled by others, suspecting that being tricked by satan.  Until subtle refusal like absurd, to justifying oneself with holy verses that only want to comfort oneself.  However, keep on training yourself to “embrace” beautifully the discomfort within.  Use discomfort as sandpaper that can smooth our innerself.

Anyone who spends a fair amount of time practicing like this, slowly a door of profound understanding will open inside.  Sometimes called the inner scriptures (the sacred book within).  Unique holy book written only for yourself.  Initial signs, the body begins to show a more friendly face, sometimes even telling about the ultimate medicine (the highest medicine, namely the good and right food).  Bad moods and sadness still come, but you can see them like clouds passing by.  Bad memories, of course, still come, but it has plenty to learn.  The problem is still visiting, but friends can see it as nutrition for maturity.  The feeling is still restless sometimes, but behind the anxiety lies many beautiful things.  The deepest message if you can understand it through your own personal achievement: “Pain, the gift that nobody want”.  Discomfort and pain are spiritual blessings that almost everyone throws away.

Friends who have managed to heal themselves on the path of sincerity some few have said: “As you heal yourself, you will meet the brighter parts of yourself”.  An Indian woman who had experienced short-term near death experience named Anita Moorjani told a very bright story: “Many secrets of Light are opened by illness and pain”.  More than that, because she has experienced great pain, even been suspended from death, Anita Moorjani has changed from an ordinary woman to become a light bearer for the world.  Her presentation on the TED youtube site was admired by many people, her advice healed and saved many.  Harvard neuroscience expert Jill Bolte Taylor is similar.  The brain expert who is admired by the world has had a stroke for 8 years.  His left brain is paralyzed.  Amazingly, after recovering this great woman told a very beautiful story about the mystery of the human brain.  Not only based on research in the laboratory, but also based on direct experience from within.  In short, this is what is called the beautiful path of sincerity.  Sincerity carries far more Light than intelligence.  That can happen if friends are affectionately embraced by discomfort, pain and disease.  The world-class healer Louse Hay clearly proclaims that behind every pain lies self-denial.  The well-known doctor and Ayurvedic expert Deepak Chopra told us that the deepest root of all pain and disease is mental injury and trauma from childhood.  The good news is that sincerity can heal it.

Perfect sincerity in front of u-God

To help our friends stay healthy, let’s find a face of sincerity that is much more perfect.  Namely sincere in front of wholeness.  In the world of science, the figures in front are physicists David Bohm and Fritjof Capra, famous psychologists from Harvard named Daniel Goleman and Susan David, to the famous social anthropologist named Gregory Bateson.  David Bohm in his masterpiece entitled “Health and the implicate order” even clearly concludes that the word health comes from the word whole.  In Eastern philosophy, perfection is described as a complete and perfect circle.  It is called the Mandala.  The elders in China are clearest in this regard by giving birth to a beautiful circle of Yin-Yang.  Both outside and the realm inside, there is a dark side and a bright side.  In the dark there is a light, in the light there is a dark side.  In the language of the Balinese elders: “Rwa bhinedane tampi”.  Learn to accept and befriend all kinds of dualities such as bad-good, sad-happy, sorrow-joy.  The most admirable meditation teacher of our time named HH Thich Nhat Hanh introduces the “inter-being” approach.  Behind wrong things there is right.  Behind sadness is deep happiness.  As soon as it understands “inter-being”, the mind immediately rest completely.

The practical and applicable steps, train yourself to grow from “the world that you want” to “the world as it is”.  For my friends to contemplate, anyone who fulfills his desires excessively will one day become an alienated soul.  Become someone else in one’s own body.  All directions seems wrong.  Being rich makes you nervous, being poor also makes you nervous.  These are the seeds of life accidents such as suicide and chronic diseases that are difficult to cure.  The invitation then, let’s grow into a beautiful region called “seeing the world as it is”.  Fish swim in the water, birds fly in the air.  Lotus blooms beautifully in wet ponds, frangipani blooms beautifully on dry land.  They are different, but both are happy and perfect “as is.”  This is the opening door to sincerity before wholeness.  As well as a beautiful step to grow naturally.  As natural as a bird in the air, as natural as a lotus in wet mud.  At the same time stepping away from the possibility of being a stranger in your own body (alienated soul).  And stepping away from the possibility of experiencing life accidents such as suicide and chronic, incurable diseases.

As a provision to take steps in your daily life, meditation in a broad sense (not just sitting, still and closing your eyes) will be very helpful in this regard.  The point is to come into contact with a gap.  When listening to any sound, experiencing anything, use it as a sacred bell to come into contact with the pause between two breaths.  Between the in-breath and the out-breath.  While visiting this memory and that memory, feel the pause between the two memories.  When you hear any sound, listen for a pause between two voices.  For example hearing children sing the song: “Do re mi fa sol …”.  Between the sound of do and re, between the sound of re and mi there is a split second pause.  When friends walk, feel the pause between two footsteps.  At the time when the mind thinks this and that, between two thoughts there is a pause.  When feelings change, there is also a pause between the two feelings.  In essence, use pauses to blend in with the moment.  Use pauses as keys to unlock “the world as it is”.  The rest is only practice that improves.  This type of practice not only opens the door to healing, not only leads to peace, but also unlocks the secrets of perfection.  In the beautiful language of the great poet Rumi: “Silence is the only language of God.  The rest is only poor translation ”.  Silence is God’s only language.  The rest are only lost in translations.  So it is understandable if Balinese elders celebrate the new year with Nyepi.  Named their God as Sang Hyang Embang (The Ultimate Silence).

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About the author

Gede Prama

Gede Prama started his spiritual journey through a dialogue with his symbolic Guru in a village at the north of Bali. The journey is then being enriched with his experiences of studying abroad, his meetings with the world greatest spiritual Gurus: His Holiness Dalai Lama, The Venerable Thich Nhat Hanh, as well as Professor Karen Armstrong; and also being deepened by his intense meditation practices.

Despite the fact that he was once a CEO of a large corporation with thousand of employees, and was traveling abroad frequently for the purpose of teaching, yet, being deeply moved by the Bali bombing incident in 2002, he then decided to leave everything and went back to his home island.
He has never leave Bali for the past few years. In fact, he rarely leaves the silence of the forest where he lives, except for the purpose of teaching at the sacred sites within Bali.

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