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The Inner Crying Babies

Written by Gede Prama

Since thousands of years ago, I don’t know how many revelations have come down to earth, I don’t know how many holy souls have tried to save people on earth, it seems that anxiety and anger shows no signs of disappearing.  A number of data on public health in several countries even tells of an increasingly sad situation.

Therefore, let’s learn to see ourselves in a more complete and holistic perspective.  When it comes to the previous life, it might be too complicated for the novice public.  But we all can feel it together, there are no parents who never done wrong to their children.  In other words, we all get hurted during our childhood.

Not to mention the problematic school age, earning a living which also contains a pile of problems.  So to certain varying degrees, we all have a lot of inner wounds.  It is these unhealed wounds of the soul that come to the surface in the form of anger, anxiety, sadness and other uninvited problems.

Overpowering dualistic thinking wants to get rid of the negative, not only this will not heal the wound, but it creates new imbalances within.  The evidence is many and can be seen clearly.  But it is not nice to mention an example in this regard.  It is much beautiful if we learn to heal our inner wounds.  The first step, see the soul wound as a crying baby inside.

Not only are internal anger and restlessness suggested to be seen as a crying baby, the anger and restlessness of people on the outside should also be seen as a crying baby.  Same with a crying baby, he doesn’t ask to be thrown away, he only asks to be embrace with love.  To be precise, love born from a bright light.

This realm is called the realm of samsara because it contains a lot of suffering.  As insight, suffering is not here to destroy us, but to purify our soul.  Thus, train the brain to respond more healthily to suffering.  A healthy symbol is a crying baby.  This symbol is an invite us to give a more positive response towards pain, which is to embrace them beautifully.

The practical step, whenever anger and anxiety comes, see it as the fruit of a complicated mixture of childhood bad memories, school days which is full of dangers, to a work place that often trigger our inner anger.  It is this collection of repressed feelings that comes to the surface in the form of uninvited guests such as anger and anxiety.

What is called simple holistic healing, just as nature cannot get rid of the night, roses cannot get rid of thorns, humans cannot get rid of anger and anxiety.  If the night is thrown away, the day also disappears.  When the thorn is removed, the perfection of the rose disappears.  If sadness is removed, happiness also disappears.

For that reason, train ourselves not to be spoiled, and want only to be happy and joyful.  Train ourselves to receive anger, anxiety and sadness as the ocean receives waves.  See anger, anxiety, sadness as a crying baby.  This is not metaphoric language (presupposition).  But the reality that is present in everyday life.

To be more clear, as a child we were all hurt by our immature parents, when at schools were all hurt by certain people, after work we were all hurt by the difficulty of earning a living.  The pile of soul wounds was energy that was repressed within.  And it is not a devil, this is a part of us.  Healing will be much easier to attain if this is seen as a crying baby inside.

To make the brain’s first response is to hug.  In the old path of meditation, the inner energy that can hold these crying babies is the energy of mindfulness.  She is like a mother who loves to hold her crying baby.  The daily steps, share a smile, acknowledge him as part of the inner self, allow him to come and go naturally.

Anyone who is diligent and sincere on this path will not only will have a soothing smile, not only will his presence be soothing to many others, at this stage he/she will easily meet the great happiness which is eat well and sleep well. Especially because the crying babies who have been thrown away for years, are now beautifully fall asleep inside.  Good luck, to all close friends.

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About the author

Gede Prama

Gede Prama started his spiritual journey through a dialogue with his symbolic Guru in a village at the north of Bali. The journey is then being enriched with his experiences of studying abroad, his meetings with the world greatest spiritual Gurus: His Holiness Dalai Lama, The Venerable Thich Nhat Hanh, as well as Professor Karen Armstrong; and also being deepened by his intense meditation practices.

Despite the fact that he was once a CEO of a large corporation with thousand of employees, and was traveling abroad frequently for the purpose of teaching, yet, being deeply moved by the Bali bombing incident in 2002, he then decided to leave everything and went back to his home island.
He has never leave Bali for the past few years. In fact, he rarely leaves the silence of the forest where he lives, except for the purpose of teaching at the sacred sites within Bali.

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