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The Tyranny of Positive Thoughts (Feelings)

Written by Gede Prama

“Any violence perpetrated outside has strong roots with the violence that committed by someone on the inside,” this is the conclusion of many studies examining perpetrators of violence in many religions.  It made a lot of sense, especially since the heat outside would only burn if someone inside filled with dangerous petrol and dry leaves.

Learning from this, let’s explore the dynamics of inner violence.  For those who are not touched by meditation at all, whenever negative thoughts (feelings) arise, the natural reaction inside is to judge oneself, then throw negative thought (feelings) as far as possible.  Why is that happen? because religion and norms prohibit humans from having negative things.

For the friends to settle deeper, just as nature cannot throw away night, roses cannot get rid of thorns, humans cannot get rid of negative thoughts and feelings.  And the more he tries to throw it out and kick it, the more negative thoughts (feelings) come to bother him.  “What you resist persist”, is the old law in psychology.  The more you fight it the stronger it become.

Because this is the case, whenever you are visited with negative thoughts (feelings), do not allow this positive thoughts (feelings) to be the only ruler within.  Besides the first option, which is to judge yourself, the second option is to get rid of negative thoughts (feelings), there is a third option which is much healthier. By trying to understand the spiritual messages carried by negative thoughts (feelings).

In this way, on the one hand negative thoughts (feelings) are not strengthened by being kicked, on the other hand a person begins to grow wholefully.  Remember, healing (health) comes from  wholeness.  At the same time, always keep in your heart, no human being is always healthy and happy.  Even the Buddha recognized boredom, which was why he often moved from one temple to another.

To help friends to be healthy and safe in this era of many dangers, here are some spiritual messages behind negative thoughts (feelings).  Especially so that all friends do not do violence inside, and that violence outside does not need to be burning inside.

  1. The spiritual message behind fear (panic).  For fear of the abyss, people move away from the abyss.  Being afraid of snakes, humans stay away from snakes.  In other words, fear is the guardian power within.  Allow yourself to be “guarded” by fear by taking care of your health, keeping away from environments that are detrimental to health. That is enough.  There’s no need to exaggrating it.
  2. The spiritual message behind anger is simple, it tells us which people who are often make us angry, what’s more dangerous, those people are actually have a very different soul calling.  There is no need for revenge, it would only invite a greater harm.  Just walk away politely.  Use him/her as the Master of patience and perfection.
  3. The spiritual message behind hatred is simple, there is too much negative energy present.  It requires more positive energy as a balance.  From listening to music, doing gardening, to doing things that are soothing to the soul.  Don’t forget, in the old house of balance, the body becomes easily healthy, the journey of the soul becomes easily survive.
  4. The spiritual message behind sadness is clear.  Without night, day will be less beautiful.  Without leaf litter, there will be no beautiful flowers.  In the same way, without sadness, happiness will never be deep.  Every friend who has been through long period of time in sadness will understands, it is actually the long sadness that gives birth to a very deep happiness.

The professor in Harvard University who is major in psychology, Susan David in her masterpiece “Agile Emotion” is clear on this point.  Thoughts (feelings) do not know the term negative-positive.  It is a natural part of the human body.  As natural as nature which has night, as natural as rose which has thorns.  Hence, Susan David has a healing remedy: “Radical acceptance of all emotions”.

It turns out that the old Compassion family medicine “receive, flow, smile”, got approval from the famous psychology professor. And she is from Harvard University.  The practical psychological language, once the thoughts (feelings) are accepted inside, the distance between people’s actions and your reactions (stimuli and responses) will gets widen. And then the bad impact becomes minimal.

For example, let’s say that the neighbors are angry.  It invites our anger inside.  Get away from the old habit of judging yourself because you are still angry, away from the old greed that wants to get rid of anger.  Then remember the spiritual message behind anger: “Angry people are signs that their soul calling is different”.  As a result, you can drive away politely from those angry people.

When that happens, not only will you survive, the angry neighbors will also be saved.  At least, no need to be in correspondence with the police.  Remember beautiful souls, no matter how close one is to God, no matter how deep one’s meditation is, there will still be sadness inside.  If you concentrate on this guiding message, sorrow becomes a saving force.

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About the author

Gede Prama

Gede Prama started his spiritual journey through a dialogue with his symbolic Guru in a village at the north of Bali. The journey is then being enriched with his experiences of studying abroad, his meetings with the world greatest spiritual Gurus: His Holiness Dalai Lama, The Venerable Thich Nhat Hanh, as well as Professor Karen Armstrong; and also being deepened by his intense meditation practices.

Despite the fact that he was once a CEO of a large corporation with thousand of employees, and was traveling abroad frequently for the purpose of teaching, yet, being deeply moved by the Bali bombing incident in 2002, he then decided to leave everything and went back to his home island.
He has never leave Bali for the past few years. In fact, he rarely leaves the silence of the forest where he lives, except for the purpose of teaching at the sacred sites within Bali.

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