Every spiritual friend who grows deep within, entering the territory of soft feeling, someday they will smile deeply with this message: “behind the pain that you experience for a long time is hidden the secret of who you are”.
Hearing this message, a woman who has a long trouble with her mother then asked: “do the parents who harmed me over the years also hide a secret about me?”. There are few things in life that we cannot choose, one of which is parent. When it comes to something that we cannot choose, the mirror is even more honest.
The material of contemplation then, is careful to put a meaning on the long wounded experiences. The way you put a meaning will determine whether those wounded experience will make the soul grow or collapse. Regarding the parents who injure the soul journey, it is advised to use them as a mirror that the soul need long journey of purification.
When the neighbors create a lot of troubles, you can move to the other house. When your boss in the office injures you, you can move to the other work place. But when your mother creates a lot of troubles, then you have no other choice except to forgive her. Since you cannot run from the parents, then the only option that available is to put those experiences as an opportunity to purify the soul.
The similar experience happens to many friends who have children with special needs. The soul journey of these friends are purified and perfected every day until the end of this life. After meeting many parents of children with special needs, it is very clear that on the one hand the burden of soul is very heavy; on the other hand they have a golden opportunity to pay the debt of karma.
There are three psychological and spiritual transitions which happen in the life of many parents of children with special needs. The first transition, they are purified by the long pain. The second transition, they are perfected by the pain. The third transition is a direct experience of spiritual connection.
The first transition occurs when a person deeply bow to the pain. It is the same as to bow to the holy Guru. The second transition happens when one treat children with special needs as an opportunity to perfect the quality of love within. The third transition of spiritual connection can possibly happen when a person learns to be totally surrendered.
Any spiritual friends who experience these three psychological and spiritual transitions, one day they will be very thankful to the long pain. Pain is a very beautiful spiritual gift, a gift that cannot be given by any holy teacher and holy scriptures.
One of the masterpiece in the previous century is The Prophet, which was written by the great poet Kahlil Gibran. And when this masterpiece was written, Gibran experienced a deep pain. One of the great light that ever born in our age is Mahatma Gandhi. The story of Mahatma Gandhi is also a story about the beauty of pain.
In short, any spiritual seekers who deeply bow to the long pain, using pain as a tool to perfect the quality of love, and then having a direct experience of spiritual connection, finally can meet life as a fountain of compassion. For soul travelers like this, the holy water from outside is no longer needed. More specifically because they have experienced manasa tirtha (the holy water which is sprinkled in the depths of the heart).
Author: Gede Prama
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