Friends in the heart…

“Friends are in the lips of the many, but only in the heart of the very few”, that’s the message that I heard this morning in Ashram North Bali. Many people talk about the importance of having good friends. But only very few people who truely have friends in the heart. Especially because there’s wide gap between knowing in the head and understanding in the heart. As a person who’s no longer young, I should share to you, without mud there will be no lotus. Without having true friend inside, there will be no friend outside.

The key word is the true friend inside. For that reason, the earlier you develop inner friend the better. As a starting point, be careful when you talk to yourself. It’s the longest and the most important conversation. The best option, talk to yourself in the same way you talk to a person you deeply love. As a result, you’ll never be lonely. Much deeper, being alone is powerful. Especially because you hold the remote controle of your happiness. You’re the master of your time. As you grow mature in this path, you’ll understand through direct experience, nothing is more luxurious than living a simple life in a complicated world.

As garden of flowers naturally invite the coming of butterflies, or the old trees naturally invite the coming of singing birds, as soon as you have true friend inside, naturally will come the true friends outside. To serve fellow light seekers to understand more about friends in the heart, here are some of spiritual nutrions.

Profound connection that shapes our lives..

Friends in the heart are more than just companions; they are the anchors of our emotional well-being, the mirrors reflecting our true selves, and the sources of unwavering support. These friendships transcend time and distance, rooted deeply in mutual understanding, trust, and affection. Unlike acquaintances or casual friends, those who reside in our hearts share a profound connection that shapes our lives in countless ways.

Such friends are the ones who understand our unspoken words and recognize our silent struggles. They celebrate our triumphs as if they were their own and stand by us during our darkest moments without judgment or hesitation. This bond is built on a foundation of shared experiences and cherished memories, creating a tapestry of trust that we can always rely on.

Reminding us that we are not alone…

The significance of friends in the heart lies in their ability to provide emotional resilience. Life’s challenges can feel insurmountable, but the presence of a true friend offers comfort and perspective, reminding us that we are not alone. Their encouragement can bolster our confidence, their advice can guide us through uncertainty, and their empathy can heal our wounds.

Moreover, these friendships enrich our lives by offering a sense of belonging and acceptance. In a world that often emphasizes individualism and competition, friends in the heart remind us of the importance of connection and community. They teach us the value of giving and receiving love, of being vulnerable and authentic.

Practical tips…

To make the ideas more practical, here are some steps to follow.

  • Remember to be the good friend of all thoughts, emotion, mood, memories, experiences. As nature embrace night and day, embrace them as parts of your true and authentic self. That’s what I mean by rediscovering the true friend inside.
  • As soon as you find the true friend inside, your vibration will attract true friends from outside. For that reason, always remember this message, we have two ears and one mouth. Meaning, learn to listen more than speak.
  • Since bad weather left behind only good timber, maintain the good quality of relationship with your friends especially in the time of challenges and difficulties. For your information, in this age people put more trust on their eyes than their ears. In other words, one beautiful deed bring more meaning than thousand of empty words.
  • Above all, speak only what you do, do what you speak. If you’re not certain that your words will make the others happy, be the good friend of smile. Smile is not only a candle that you share outside, but also a light that you bring to the darkness inside.

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About the author

H.H. Guruji Gede Prama

Gede Prama started his spiritual journey through a dialogue with his symbolic Guru in a village at the north of Bali. The journey is then being enriched with his experiences of studying abroad, his meetings with the world greatest spiritual Gurus: His Holiness Dalai Lama, The Venerable Thich Nhat Hanh, as well as Professor Karen Armstrong; and also being deepened by his intense meditation practices.

Despite the fact that he was once a CEO of a large corporation with thousand of employees, and was traveling abroad frequently for the purpose of teaching, yet, being deeply moved by the Bali bombing incident in 2002, he then decided to leave everything and went back to his home island.
He has never leave Bali for the past few years. In fact, he rarely leaves the silence of the forest where he lives, except for the purpose of teaching at the sacred sites within Bali.

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