After his leg get punctured by a thorn, a furious king ordered that all roads have to be covered with animal skins. After waiting for the king to calm down, his wise advisor patiently whispered: “Why can’t the king’s feet be covered with sandals (shoes) instead?” This is a very old story, But it is still rich in meaning and light.
Whenever they are hurted, a lot of people want to shut other people’s mouths, want to shut other people’s thoughts, want to shut down other people’s actions. Complete with prohibitions such as no and don’ts. Just like the king above who wants to cover all roads with animal skins. In fact, if the mind is wrapped in the “shoe” of consciousness, many wounds can be avoided.
Friends whose wives are on her menopausal period, husbands on andropause period, their naughty children, neighbours karaoke voice which is super loud, all are presenting thorns that can hurt. Less spoiled for wanting to change everyone. Not only was that impossible, but it would also invite more suffering. Here are some examples of covering the mind with the “shoe” of consciousness.
Let say you are hurt by unfriendly words from your wife who is menopausal (husband who is andrepause). The part of you that is hurt doesn’t want to see your wife (husband). But the obligation as a mother (father), beautiful memories of past time courtship, and the sex energy that guides you to meet your wife (husband). These two are contradictory, but both are part of you.
In order to grow physically and mentally healthy, teach yourself to grow in balance. Over-suppressing one element, to satisfy another element of yourself can invite many problems later. Another example, when a child is being naughty, the part of you that is hurt doesn’t want to see the child. But as a parent, you still have to take care of your child.
Again, both the part of you that doesn’t want to meet your child, and the part of you that have to meet them, these both are parts of you. Once again, sit down equally between the two. Allow yourself who is suffer to give flowers of happiness to the part of you who yearn for happiness (fulfill your duties as a parent).
In short, always grow in the old house of balance. Embrace the two opposing parts of you (the part of you that is hurting, the part of you that wants to be happy). Sit on top of them with a smile. Initially the suffering self will refuse. Over time the resistance grew looser and looser. Until one day enlightenment makes resistance (attachment) disappear.
It is at such times that the friends encounter the true Light of the self. The self that does not burn by fire, the self that is not wet by water, the self that is never born and never dies. And that is the most beautiful Light that can be found inside.
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