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Emotionally Hungry

Written by Gede Prama

Not only the stomach that can recognize hunger, emotions also can recognize hunger. Sadly, not many people understand emotional hunger. Suddenly, this chronic, untreated hunger then turns into various diseases. Not only causes mental diseases, but can also cause chronic pain. For that reason, let’s reflect on being emotionally hungry.

The most superficial signs of emotional hunger are frequent bad moods, visited by bad memories, suddenly upset and angry for no reason. Deeper than that, the person concerned tends to be too possessive, excessively jealous, and is afraid of losing close people. Frequent nightmares, frequent broken relationships with other people are also other signs.

When explored more deeply, people like this lacked affection during childhood age in particular. Either their parents died young, separated, or were not mature enough to take care of the children. Then as adults, their close people also fail to give the same affection. In the end, this chronic hunger presents a sense of discomfortness. At home it feels wrong and at work they also do not feel comfortable.

Even in the most beautiful places of recreation, this type of person always senses that something is missing. In order to help friends to heal and grow, it’s important, first of all, to equip yourself with this kind of understanding: “You are your own best healer. Out of 7 billions people on earth, there is only one person who can truly care for you. And that person is you yourself.”

For that, quickly take your own switch of life. Do not allow your switch to be held by someone else, no more. Depending excessively on people’s praise and admiration will only put the switch in the hands of others. And that’s not only unhealthy, but very dangerous in the long run.

Once you understand that you are your own best healer, take time to take care of yourself every day. Not only give yourself biological nutrition, but also psychological nutrition and spiritual nutrition. Self-acceptance, forgiving the past, being happy with what has been, are some examples of psychological nutrition.

Feeling self-sufficient and deep gratitude are some examples of spiritual nutrition. Even better is to learn to find your soul home. Have the courage as early as possible to conclude, the home is not in the future but in the present. The home is not elsewhere, but where you are now. Besides that, have the courage to be happy with what you already have.

It was the most daring kind of courage ever. If you need a mantra, try this mantra: “I am happy with what I currently have.” When in the mirror, whisper this message to a pair of eyes in the mirror: “I love you unconditionally.” Then remember to share a welcoming smile with the person in the mirror.

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About the author

Gede Prama

Gede Prama started his spiritual journey through a dialogue with his symbolic Guru in a village at the north of Bali. The journey is then being enriched with his experiences of studying abroad, his meetings with the world greatest spiritual Gurus: His Holiness Dalai Lama, The Venerable Thich Nhat Hanh, as well as Professor Karen Armstrong; and also being deepened by his intense meditation practices.

Despite the fact that he was once a CEO of a large corporation with thousand of employees, and was traveling abroad frequently for the purpose of teaching, yet, being deeply moved by the Bali bombing incident in 2002, he then decided to leave everything and went back to his home island.
He has never leave Bali for the past few years. In fact, he rarely leaves the silence of the forest where he lives, except for the purpose of teaching at the sacred sites within Bali.

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