As someone who is no longer young, and has met thousands of friends who have different kind of illness, different kind of life problems during the meditation session interviews, the conclusion of Louise Hay in the book: You can heal your life is correct: “In every pain and disease there is always a factor of self-rejection. The louder the self-rejection, the louder and the longer the pain”.
There are many reasons behind this self-denial. From a woundfull childhood, a school time which is full of judgement, to failure to love yourself and your life. But it’s hard to argue, anyone who fails to accept himself as he is, not only will his body turn into a mobile hospital, but also will be awaited by an old age full of problems and calamities.
Illuminated by the light of this kind of understanding, the beautiful masterpiece Tara Brach, Ph.D entitled “Radical Acceptance” speaks very clearly of how total and radical self-acceptance can transform a body from a walking house of deases to a walking house of cure. Not only are the doors of sustenance open, but the doors of intimacy with other people are also open.
So that close friends will soon recover and grow, please reflect on this message deeply: “The most dangerous thing is not losing contact with your parents, but losing contact with your wholeness within”. Losing contact with the wholeness (read: where there is sadness there is joy) that is what makes the body a house of cure.
As a practical measure, a life without pain does not exist. Even holy souls experience pain. The invitation then, use pain as the key to unlocking the sacred areas within. Tara Brach calls it the heart space. For this reason, balance intelligence with kindness, balance the outer wealth with inner wealth.
Before sharing goodness outward, learn to share goodness inward. Before talking about your inner wealth to the people outside, first discover your own beautiful gems inside. Every time you experience an unpleasant incident, ask less about “what is my sin?”, Ask more on “how can this incident made me a more mature soul? The second question contains more self-acceptance.
The transition from question one to question two is also helping friends transition from self-judgment to self-compassion. At the same time, that is the most beautiful step in transforming the body as a walking disease into a walking house of healing.
To borrow the Buddha’s story, a person who judges himself is like someone who is injured by an arrow. Self-judgment not only does not heal, it adds new arrows to existing wounds. We began to pull out the arrows that hurt and heal ourselves if we learned to open the door to wholeness within.
The symbol can be the ocean, it can also be a beautiful rose. Those of you who prefer the ocean, every time you have a bad memory or have a bad memory, this is a mantra that should be whispered in: “Hello waves, I know you are coming again. But I am no longer being played with by the rising and falling of the waves. I am a great wide ocean”.
Friends who are close to beautiful roses, say this mantra to yourself when visited by bad memories and bad events: “Hi thorns, I know you are still in there. But thorns are here to keep me save. It make roses the representative of perfection”. Remember, there is no rose without thorns, no good things without any bad things.
In order to deepen our daily practice, Tara Brach gave a suggestion in the form of “u turn practice”. Suppose you encounter a barking dog. First of all there is fear or anger, but then we actually noticed that the reason behind this is because the dog’s leg is bleeding from being caught in a tree trunk. The same thing happens when you encounter people who are angry and hurtful.
Initially they caused you anger and hatred, after being explored, behind their anger that burns, there are hidden soul wounds that is deeper than yours. It can be divorced parent, until school (financial) that is currently in trouble. As a result, a shift in perspective occurs within: “From being angry to smiling nicely.” This is a very healing u turn practice.
And that might happen, only if friends have learned the art of totally and radically accepting oneself. Similar to frangipani that blooms easily on dry land, lotus that blooms easily in wet ponds, healing, happiness and peace will emerge easily and beautifuly if one has practiced the art of total and radical self-acceptance.
Photo caption: Guruji is meditating